While it seems like there has always been some form of relationship status, in recent years, there are multiple new terms to describe one’s romantic relationship. The most popular one among many Gen-Z teens seems to be the term, “situation-ship”.
What is a situationship? Since this term is becoming so popular among young people, it has actually gotten its own definition. According to Dictionary.com, “A situationship is a romantic or sexual relationship that is undefined and noncommittal. People in a situationship are more than friends but less than committed romantic partners.”
The definition is as confusing as the actual situation. So many teens are finding themselves in “situationships,” where they are talking to someone they have an attraction to, and may even go on dates, but they aren’t technically dating. This type of relationship has become so commonplace among teens that it doesn’t even sound strange to say and almost anyone you say the word to would understand what you meant.
Although it is so common to find yourself in a “situation-ship”, it can get toxic very quickly, and for many reasons. According to Cleveland Clinic.org, “A situationship can become toxic if you have different expectations for the relationship, or if the power dynamic between the participants is unequal.” The toxicity of these situations can grow over time because both parties may want something different but don’t communicate the differences among them. This can lead to a seven-month-long talking stage with someone who doesn’t want anything serious with you whatsoever.
While “situation-ships” can, in some cases, lead to a relationship, in general, they are just a big waste of time for both parties. One person may be wanting to go into this situationship with the idea that it will lead to something more, like a servicing relationship. However, the other person may just need a distraction or want to talk to a person for fun. Many times, these differences are not communicated among pairs and someone can end up hurt.
North senior Jordy Olivero shares his insights on situation-ships, “Situation-ships are just a bunch of time that you lose in awful people.”
Choosing to be in a situationship comes with many challenges and changes, just like a relationship, it’s just not official. Watch out for unwanted company and make sure to always be aware of what you want and to communicate those feelings. Stay safe Huskies!
